I’m in the states, but it’s the same here. Success and thriving is the autistic kid not being disruptive to their classmates. So for now, our kid is homeschooled. We’re lucky enough to not have to expose him to being overwhelmed 40 hours a week. Maybe he’ll try again in a few years, but for now, stay at home mom is killing it.
Theres an impedance mismatch in expectations, I’m expecting my owed publicly provided education, but they are providing* trauma inducing childcare.
That said, I get it. The school departments aren’t set up or funded for individualized education plans, if they were we’d be in a much better position. They are setup for take care of the fat part of the curve of students, and identify and neutralize disruptions. If classes were closer to a 1 to 5 ratio, if teachers were given more control, it could be different. If educators got more than a handful of 1 hour seminars on sped needs, pda, sensory issues, they would certainly handle it better.
I’ve only had something like that happen once, and I suggested that I had some good resources from my wife and kid, and I could hook him up. He kind of awkwardly laughed it off and said he was good.
I still don’t know if he was trying to be use it as a punchline, or trying to share his condition. I certainly don’t want to push people away from sharing their struggles if they are using humor to deal with a hard topic. But yeah, using it as a punch line is pretty insensitive. I’ve said I was being OCD as a joke about being particular about a project, and I totally could have hurt someone’s feelings who actually struggles with a real condition, and that kind of sucks.