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spaduf@slrpnk.netM to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 1 year ago

Why It's So Hard for Men to Say No to Sex and Why Saying Yes to Unwanted Sex Has Consequences.

www.psychologytoday.com

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Why It's So Hard for Men to Say No to Sex and Why Saying Yes to Unwanted Sex Has Consequences.

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spaduf@slrpnk.netM to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 1 year ago
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... and why saying yes to unwanted sex has consequences.
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    There are certainly some nuggets of truth in there but man is Psych Today just a terrible org.

    • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      What’s wrong with it? (Genuine question)

      • TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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        Acknowledging men’s emotions

        • The_Helmet_Stays_On@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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          Wait… we have emotions?

          • TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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            No.,

            • metaStatic@kbin.social
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              well that’s a relief

              • otp@sh.itjust.works
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                Is relief an emotion?

                • SpikesOtherDog@ani.social
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                  I’m often emotional after pooping.

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                  oh shit

      • sbv@sh.itjust.works
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        Is that the org that said large condoms are bullshit and just a thing for insecure dudes?

        If so, they can fuck off. If not, I’m sure I can find another reason to hate them.

        • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          “Wearing items that fit comfortably is a hallmark of insecurity” -galaxy_brain.png

        • fuckyou@lemmy.caBanned from community
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          Removed by mod

      • fracture [he/him] @beehaw.org
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        i am also wondering this, this thread feels like the goddamn twilight zone

        • LinkOpensChest.wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          There are some pretty weird-ass comments here, that’s for sure! I scrolled, but didn’t feel like engaging. I didn’t think “saying yes to unwanted sex can be harmful” was a hot take, especially in this community, but… ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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      Good to know, I was not aware of that. I appreciate that folks on lemmy seem to kinda always have their finger on the pulse so to speak when it comes to the background of various organizations

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      Yeah, Psych today is about as credible these days as The View when it comes to psychology research.

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    As someone who used to think they were a man, and who felt that as a supposed man they had a “role” to fulfil in wanting sex whenever it was an option, I can absolutely back this up. I have caused myself no end of damage because I thought that wanting sex was the default state and I should jump on the opportunity whenever I could.

    Sex is great. Lots of sex is great. But it’s okay to not want to have sex, and it’s not worth the psychological damage to have sex when you don’t want to have sex. It can be like sexually assaulting yourself.

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    I had to read the community ‘about’ section because at a glance of the headline I thought this was an onion network or similar article and didn’t know what men’s liberation was.

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    TL;DR: the reason is that men are horndogs, and those that for some weird reason want to say “no” are pressured by the Patriarchy and/or Toxic Masculinity to say “yes.”

    Did I get the gist of the article right? 🤔

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      No, not a bit.

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        Yeah, maybe not the horndog part, but the rest checks out if you read between the lines.

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          Have you tried reading the actual lines?

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          What about reading the actual lines?

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