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  • I get this for sure… getting annoyed at not being annoyed enough. Two questions I workshopped with my then therapist for similar situations:

    1. What do I want/hope/expect staying in this mood/feeling to accomplish?
    2. If this is something worthwhile (helpful, not harmful), how can I accomplish it without clinging to the feeling?

    Like for example missing an appointment, I expect being annoyed at myself or in a bad mood to punish me into re-booking the appointment or not miss it the next time. I can accomplish this without the punishment-part by re-booking it Right Now (including sending an email or leaving a voice mail asking them to get back to me if they’re unavailable), and mark the next appointment time in my calendar+alarm system for 7 minutes earlier before I need to leave so I have time to find my keys, pee, and go back in for my phone.

    Bonus question:

    1. This mood of mine, who is it affecting aside from myself? Is it worth punishing the people around me at the same time, for my mistake?

  • Perhaps you can find some sort of dumb smart phone, like for children, that maybe only allows a few apps so you can still have whatever you absolutely need but without mail, browser, etc that tracks and distracts you.

    Before making a decision maybe you can try setting up your current phone with a mode (check settings) to only allow clock/alarm, phone, and messaging and see how you manage.



  • In my country almost all (maybe actually all) 2FA services have the option to send a text/sms with a code, that would work for a dumb phone as well. Or via email to your computer. Do you have those options?

    I can do banking online without an app, but I want an app for local transport like buses and trains as that is cheaper than paying with card. Are you set to travel without a smart phone?

    Other things I use a smart phone for: calendar to remember peoples birthday by. Alarm clock. Photos of my pets being adorable, or injuries to show a doctor or insurance company. Video calls with the veterinarian (a phone is much easier to navigate than a webcam). Digital tickets for movies/shows/events/travel instead of needing a printer. Map and navigation.







  • What worked for me was to make sure to eat while taking it (within a 20 min window - could do 40 but that was pushing it), and go for a short run a 40-60 min after taking it.

    Having my heart rate already up when it kicked in made the heartrate spike barely noticeable, and it felt like I burned through the side effects just by suffering through a run for 15-20 min. I guess biking or any cardio training could have the same effect, but running was easiest for me to fit into my schedule.




  • I fully relate to being uncomfortable when others use my name. I dont hate it anymore, but people using it when talking to me weirds me out. I know who I am so you don’t have to remind me, and you know who I am because you’re currently talking to me!

    It just feels like constantly being poked with something sharp when someone overuses my name, or I get on edge like I expect them to try pickpocket me at any moment, or I get tense and feel my fuse shortening like they’re being condescending and sort of explaining my own name to me?

    I don’t know, it’s just really grinding my gears. Dont know if it’s adhd though, or having overactive walls and defenses, or something else.


  • You replied to only one of my points, and that’s not even what I said…

    They train new models on base models, and I’m talking about how they scraped the internet without permission or how websites sold their users data without compensation and how no one was ever given any opportunity to opt out of sharing your work and your words to train these base models on.

    Without that grand scale theft we would have no base models anywhere near what we have now.

    I’m not opposed to willingly sharing, I’m opposed to profiting from stealing.


  • I noticed how quickly my own skills started deteriorating when trying to work with it. I’m trying to build my skills, not outsource them.

    I also don’t love the environmental impact, nor the immorality of how they got/get their training sets for the base models.

    If my work tried to force me to use it, I would be looking to change employer. Or lie and say I use it. But our AI use is heavily regulated and generally disencouraged, so luckily no issues there.




  • Try reframing what constitutes toxicity in DBD. I know it really helped me when i started voice acting as the killer with a goofy voice. I don’t know what you consider toxic, but some suggestions: killer voice being all lovey-dovey when hitting on hook and face camping, celebratory like a kid someone let win in cards when ground humping, “excuse me maam, you dropped your wallet, hello hello, excuse me!” increasingly desperately when tunneling, etc.

    And close end game chat before reading it.