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  • I’m still pretty bad at navigating social situations, so bear that in mind, but I’ve found that there’s a difference between volunteering preferences vs being asked. If a group of people are chatting about all the things that they are doing with AI, then me saying something like “yeah, but AI sucks and it’s worthless, it’s unethical and hallucinates most of the time,” isn’t going to be well received. However, perhaps they’d ask how I’m using AI or such. I could mention that I don’t use AI anymore. Then if they ask me why not, then they’ve requested my honest opinion, and they need to be prepared to hear it. If they push back, then it’s like hey, you asked, did you only want me to tell you what you wanted to hear?

    I’ll also say that people that dominate conversations and insult others that don’t agree with them drive me away very quickly, because that’s abusive or bullying behavior, even if they do it with a smile or joke. Other people seem to like that kind of behavior though, because they’re almost always popular for some reason.








  • I agree with you that online conversations are rare these days. Just my personal opinion but social media isn’t usually great for conversations. It’s better for shallow comments, drive-by’s, and echo chambers. Social media also tends to steer toward blind comments, so there is a lot of repetition. Forums seem to be better for conversations because there’s often a emphasis on reading the entire thread before commenting, there is more moderation, and also because they tend to accrue replies more slowly. However if a thread becomes too long then forums break down too, so nothing is perfect.



  • I’m trying to get real, specific examples.

    Asking for unnecessary specifics and details is usually a sign not that the person wants to be helpful but that they disagree and are looking for ammunition to argue and feel superior. Ultimately the exchange becomes a waste of everyone’s time, as the person inevitably becomes rude, condescending and argumentative. Basically, some people online think they’re smarter than everyone else, or at least want to project that. They believe they have the only valid argument and they’re going to prove it to the world and probably think that they’ve won because they had the last word when in reality everyone left because they realized the person was not arguing in good faith. I’m not claiming you’re that type of person, but I suspect that’s why nobody is giving you specifics.

    Wouldn’t have mentioned anything but you did ask.