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Cake day: March 18th, 2024

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  • HOA are just such a strange concept because they could be such a useful force that has been corrupted into an engine of uniformity and roadblocks.

    You would think a local organized organization would be quick and nimble to meet the needs of it’s small group of citizens who know each other. But they got bogged down in petty arguments and minor aesthetic changes. Local municipal governments got stuck in the same trap. Too much regulation of minor aesthetic issues.

    I don’t know the solution but interesting









  • If a guy openly talk about his love of bondage and kink and just being horny they’re either coded as on the right or a creep if they’re talking about women (being a thirsty gay guy is ok because they’re not straight) but if you’re a woman who likes women then culturally it’s fine.

    While I agree there is some demonization of straight masculinity but I don’t think this is a “left” or “right” thing but part of the general sex negativity in the culture. I do think that queers and women have worked hard to retake their sexuality and I think some straight men have done it but not in the same way.

    I would say that talking about bondage and kink can come off creepy if it isn’t done correctly but depends on the context. If you are looking for a good sex positive part of the internet I would recommend looking at Dan Savage Sex & Relationship Website. There you will find lots of straight men talking opening and honestly about kink and sex as well as those who are queer and women.

    I think you got to be the change you want to see because the dominant cultural narrative is that there are one type of men which would be the “stereotypical masc hetero guy”. With this being the case when people (I mean “2025 descendant of Tumblr feminism” ) talk about “men” this is who they are talking about. If you are not those people they are not talking about you. Be yourself and redefine masculinity to be yourself.

    Also I don’t think “the left” codes “heterosexuality as bad or conservative” but the right says that is the case without any support.