
Maybe the difference is where it stems from. Like with avoidant personality that need is still there, just suppressed. But with autism there is no need. The end result is still the same.
Though take it with a grain of salt as I’m just guessing.
Why would i do that? Exactly, because if they need or want me, they will invite me.






I’ve found it to be the other way around. It’s easier to find an excuse to another person or as most changes take from months to years then those will be forgotten anyway.
It’s harder to find reasonable excuses for myself and even then I’m still gonna see myself as weak and failure.
Well I’m still gonna see myself as weak and failure even if is succeed, but that’s beside the point.
So most changes are for myself and there’s no point to announce or tell others. If they notice somewhere down the line then fine, but it’s completely irrelevant.