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- adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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Sounds like pretty typical brain behaviour neurodivergent or not.
I could make that exact comment on every single post in here.
“I’m SPECIAL! I’m NEURODIVERGENT!”
<posts completely typical human behavior>
As always, yes, it can be similar. But the intensity and scale is in absolute overdrive.
Like comparing a paper cut to being slashed by a katana. Or something.
But how can you be sure? You are comparing your internal perception of the phenomenon that no one else but you can perceive to the internal perception of others that you cannot perceive.
Seems like it’s a matter of qualia, utterly subjective experience that is unshareable and thus incomparable between others.
Not every facet of ones existence must be somehow be different between neurotypical and neurodivergent.
You can’t, yet.
And that’s what makes it suck even more.
It’s like with all people you just needed to believe that their suffering is real until it was provable. They never got an apology to having to suffer through being blamed as faking illness. And yes, even if faked or just subjectively bad, what’s the point? Why should they make it up?
As an example: I was blamed by my neurologist of faking and whining and a mrt proved I have multiple sclerosis. Yay, I win… I guess??
The point being: this is /autism. If you’re going to blame, just leave. Even if not everything has to be about neurodivergence, here it is.
Apologies for reacting this pissed, but my (energy) spoons are all spent because it’s Friday and was hell of a week to cope but that’s probably also something everyone has to manage…
I don’t see my response as “blame”, it’s simply a statement that not every facet of your experience is necessarily unrelatable to others. This one is pretty innocuous, forgetting useful stuff for stuff that is emotionally impactful. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just something that everyone experiences.
I’m not a huge fan of the concept of just letting people believe certain facets of their lives are differences when in fact it’s a place for common ground. I dislike that any time humans organize ourselves into groups, we fixate on how we can minimize what we have in common with people outside the group, and fail to recognize commonality.
I can’t remember anyone’s birthday or name, but I absorb random scientific information like a sponge.
I feel the same way. I’ve always assumed it’s because scientific information doesn’t change with time unless it was wrong to begin with. It somehow always ends up sticking to already existing information very well and getting the label “permanent”.
Where are my keys? What did I have for dinner this week? Those have the “ethereal” label on it so it’s get thrown out at the first opportunity.
So how are you with birthdays though?
Not as good as I would have expected. I remember my in-laws car license plate but not their birthdays. It might be because I use a calendar to track those.
In general, yes. I remember that research which showed autists do not forget negative experiences like neurotypicals do.
