Dang, I know the feeling/situation but haven’t had that with a therapist.
It was my mom for a long time, but she was and still is way too easy on me and just does the stuff, like cleaning, herself whenever the situation comes up.
But I pushed for years to get, in Swedish, “boendestöd” (tried to find a good translation but none is really correct, it’s kinda housing/accommodation support, but more in some ways but focused on helping me getting things done and not them doing it). Had it for about 10 months now and it has helped so much. One major thing is being able to meet with her and other family just to hang out and not for help, it’s something I’ve wanted get to for so long.
If there’s something like that where you live I highly recommend it, it’s definitely scary at first since you’re letting at the absolute minimum one person into your life and home even when it’s really bad but it’s so worth it. You get to know them and they learn how to push you in a good way, I’ve come to a point where I often manage to start cleaning and other stuff that’s needed even before they get here which is something I wouldn’t have guessed would happen, at least so quickly.
Jokes on you (well, actually me), I don’t have one! I’m just stuck and the only thing that helps that is another person making me do it.
This is me and my therapist literally built in time to our sessions just so she could browbeat me into calling the bank about a chargeback or whatever
Dang, I know the feeling/situation but haven’t had that with a therapist.
It was my mom for a long time, but she was and still is way too easy on me and just does the stuff, like cleaning, herself whenever the situation comes up.
But I pushed for years to get, in Swedish, “boendestöd” (tried to find a good translation but none is really correct, it’s kinda housing/accommodation support, but more in some ways but focused on helping me getting things done and not them doing it). Had it for about 10 months now and it has helped so much. One major thing is being able to meet with her and other family just to hang out and not for help, it’s something I’ve wanted get to for so long.
If there’s something like that where you live I highly recommend it, it’s definitely scary at first since you’re letting at the absolute minimum one person into your life and home even when it’s really bad but it’s so worth it. You get to know them and they learn how to push you in a good way, I’ve come to a point where I often manage to start cleaning and other stuff that’s needed even before they get here which is something I wouldn’t have guessed would happen, at least so quickly.
Turns out there’s a fine line between therapist and dominator/trix?