So I guess neurodivergent people don’t exist then? I personally found it difficult to learn many of these when I was growing up, since I could never truly understand these unspoken rules, which felt like everyone else was communicating them through some other medium I never had access to. I still struggle with them as an adult too, not because I don’t have a will to learn them, but genuinely because nobody explicitly stated them to me before.

I’ve had many autistic and other ND friends, and most of them also had difficulties in these, for which many were targeted as the “odd ones out”, not because they were weird, but because they didn’t know the etiquette.

Neurodevelopmental disorders don’t disappear, and since I’ve realised I’m likely autistic, the reason I didn’t fit in when I was younger fell into place, it wasn’t my fault, it’s just that people are unreasonably expected to follow unspoken rules that are completely invisible to quite a large percentage of the population.